My 5 Intentions for 2018

I say it every year, and probably will when I'm in my forties as well, but I can't believe it's the new year already.

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I wanted to reflect on 2017 (look back at ittt) and gather my intentions for 2018. I use intentions because the word resolution can be a little, well, daunting, scary, and just too much. Plus, I rarely hear resolutions that aren't to lose weight or something so large it'll overwhelm you before you even get a chance to get to it.

While working for Katie Cavuto, I saw she was setting intentions. She even just picked 1 word for the New Year so it serves as a theme for her life instead of causing guilt if she doesn't meet them exactly.

I liked that.
 

1. Listen to My Intuition

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I'd say this is the biggest takeaway from 2017. I never realized how many of my decisions were based off of others' and society's expectations. Whether it's what to study, what career to aspire to, what to look like, or what to eat, it get's fuzzy which are my desires and which are society's expectations.

This year I learned to dig deep and listen to my own intuition. Which has surprisingly not been as easy as I thought. I in no way turned a switch and started to make all of my decisions based on my own heart, but it has been a step (or a lot of steps) in the right direction.

In 2018 I want to take a step back before making a decision and make sure it's something I truly want. Not something I feel expected of me.
 

2. Busy Does Not Mean Better

 BRENE U ARE A KWEEN

BRENE U ARE A KWEEN

I recently read a study showing Americans favor busyness over wealth. Meaning, other countries depict status as being able to do nothing because that denotes their wealth. Here in the U.S, we favor hard work, which is cool AF, until we start taking it to the Nth degree.

We've been taught that busy is better, to always have an unrealistic to-do list, and that we'll all just sleep when we're dead.

I'm all about hard work, motivation, and dedication, but I'm sure all the recovering perfectionists out there can vouch for me when I say you will burn out. Quickly.

In the New Year, I want to focus on the things that will get me where I want to be. I want to practice on saying no without feeling guilty. In the past I've said yes to things because I felt like I needed to be doing it all. In reality, I was spreading myself so thin and forgetting who I was along the way.

The goal is to bring that same dedication to a few less projects.
 

3. Eat More Veggies.. If I Want to

 Kylie from Imma Eat That is kween too

Kylie from Imma Eat That is kween too

I can see the scrunched up what-the-heck-is-this-girl-saying face you have after reading that. You may be thinking, no, you should eat more vegetables period. Start Whole 30, do the detox you've done 3 times before, eliminate sugar, and drink your green smoothies and be confused why you're hungry an hour later.

2017 may have been full of, well, unique events in the world, but for me, it was the year I found freedom. Freedom from trying to keep my body a certain size and freedom from guilt after eating something not 'clean.' Though it is in no way over, it was a start to my journey to loving my body and in turn, myself.

As someone who once though self-love was egotistical and selfish, I found out that it's the complete opposite. Releasing the judgment on myself has helped me be more accepting of others and their decisions.

For 2018, I want to keep working on this area of my life. Sure, there will always be days where I don't feel my best, but to know that they're going to happen and to focus on self-compassion instead of self-judgement is way better to me.
 

4. Know My Worth

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I've actually been wanting to write a blog post about this, but haven't been able to tactfully write about it, so it's been sitting in my drafts waiting for a better time. Until then, I'll keep it as a 2018 intention :)

Whatever you may be doing for work, especially if you are creating some kind of product or service, a big questions is how much you should charge. Whether it's when asking for a raise, or when you price your services, it can be a confusing topic.

It took me a while to feel comfortable with setting a price for what I can provide. For 2018, I want to stick to my worth, keep doing my best to provide that value, and work with people that align with that. If not, I have to learn to say no, walk away, and find others to work with that can.

On the flip side, I want to work on knowing the difference between my value and creating relationships. Sometimes it can be more worth it to lower your price in order to form a long lasting relationship with a company or client. 2018 is for working in that gray area and making mistakes in order to learn.
 

5. I Am Enough and You Are Enough.

 Okay Rupi is a Kween too. THE FUTURE IS FEMALE AM I RIGHT.

Okay Rupi is a Kween too. THE FUTURE IS FEMALE AM I RIGHT.

This is one of those sayings that is said so often I never actually thought about its meaning. 
It finally clicked this year. 

I guess I always saw it in a body-positive light, but it really is relevant in all aspects of life. You are already enough as you are. You don't need to change yourself for others, you don't need to become something for others, get a certain job or live a certain life because society tells you it's right.


What are you looking forward to in 2018?!

Wishing you all a safe and happy new year :)

 

xoxo,

Alex